The relationship isn't working.

(and ADHD gets all the blame)

I know ADHDers who blame themselves for struggle.

Because they have ADHD.

Must be their fault, right?

Wrong.

Here's the pre-breakup audit that changes the angle:

➡️ The ADHD Check:

• Do other relationships work fine?
• Are you thriving elsewhere in life?
• Did these "flaws" exist before them?

➡️ The Compatibility Check:

• Do they accept your coping strategies?
• Are your needs "too much" for them?
• Do they research ADHD themselves?

➡️ The Accountability Check:

• Where's their growth edge?
• What patterns existed before you?
• Which issues would exist without ADHD?

➡️ The Energy Check:

• Who initiates repair after conflicts?
• Who does the emotional labor?
• Who's always adjusting?

ADHD explains differences.
Not every failed connection.

*ADHDers saving this to wave in someone's face later 🤭